ou’ve seen it in the movies or on TV: the sweet, innocent daughter is busy studying for classes, spending time with her family, and volunteering at the local animal shelter.
The greasy-haired, tattoo-covered guy has dropped out of high school or college and spends his day driving around in his sleek car. Most of us haven’t experienced this sort of extreme, but it’s still very common for parents to find their older teens and adult children pursuing friendships and relationships with people they don’t approve of.
Create clear guidelines about internet dating as well.
Many teens talk to individuals online and establish a false sense of intimacy.
Create clear guidelines about your expectations to help your teen understand the importance of healthy relationships and the risks associated with sexual activity.
For example, you might say, “I noticed last week that you skipped your classes so you could spend more time with John. ” Of course, then ask follow up questions as necessary so that they can come to their own conclusion about the wisdom, or lack of it, in their decision.
It’s important for your child to come to those conclusions themselves.
And as an adult, they will want to make the final decision.
Hopefully, by this time, they will have absorbed the wisdom you’ve shared with them over the years enabling you to trust them to make wise decisions.
And, hopefully, they will honor you and trust you enough to follow your lead.